Pretty Girl Rock “DRESS” Challenge

One thing I truly love about Atlanta are the wonderful trailblazing women I’ve met over the years.  One in particular that I met at a “Cookie Exchange”, Dearroka, her and her girlfriends came up with this wonderful idea to bring CLASS and FEMININITY back.

I have always loved the look of the 40s, 50s and 60s.  If a man wasn’t wearing a suit, he had on pants, shirt and tie. Women were always in dresses.  Our men looked like MEN and the women looked like LADIES. We’re so far removed from that era of style so, Dearroka presented to her friends a challenge.  She’s challenging women in her circle to put the sweat suits, jeans and pants away and let your inner GIRLIE-GIRL out! I think this idea is wonderful and told her I would most definitely take on the challenge and start the challenge with my own circle of girlfriends in Boston.

THE CHALLENGE:

  • We will rock dresses and heels like our mothers & grandmothers at least THREE (3) times a week.
  • We will reject the impulse to throw on jeans, jogging suits, & dress slacks.
  • Exchange our revelations and thoughts throughout this challenge.
  • Invite a Friend(s), Take Pics, & HAVE FUN.
  • Everyone is WELCOMED to participate.
  • Flattering Dress Suits and skirts with nice accessories are allowed.
  • If you have a blog share it with your followers.

If you are on Facebook and want to know more about the “Pretty Girl Rock DRESS Challenge” please click on this link: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=128539830544421.

Let’s pull out our dresses this spring and do our best PRETTY GIRL ROCK!

Bombshell of the Month: Aung San Suu Kyi

This bombshell, Aung San Suu Kyi, is the face and the symbol of the struggle to free the people of Burma, India.  She’s also a Nobel Peace laureate.  The daughter of an assassinated Burma independence hero, Aung San, Mrs. Suu Kyi was born to fight for freedom.  Burma’s repressive laws, restricted freedoms and a dictatorship that allows people to be detained without trial, thrusted Suu Kyi in the country’s nationwide democracy uprising.   After a military coup in 1988, she became the General Secretary of a new pro-democracy party called the National League for Democracy (NLD).  Naturally the regime fought back brutally murdering 5,000 people of Burma.  After intense international pressure, the dictatorship was forced to call a general election which really didn’t matter because they never recognized NLD’s staggering win.  Suu Kyi has spent the last 20 years on and off detention and house arrest.  She was released on November 13, 2010 – her third period of detention.  The struggle is still not over.  She is calling for the release of 2,000 more political prisoners. 

Power to the people.

Bombshell Diaries.1 “I’m 18 and abused”

I’ve been getting emails from people talking and asking me about everything under the sun.  Some want to know why I’m so crazy, what do I think they should do about something a boyfriend did, how do I feel about interracial dating, why am I so stupid (lol), why am I so hard on women, am I racist because I support Obama (wtf?!?)..you name it, it’s been sent to me.  A friend of mine suggested I share some of them along with my opinion so here goes. 

2 weeks ago I got an email from a young lady who is being abused by her boyfriend… she’s 18.  I’ve scratched out her email for privacy.

Subject:  Hello
From:  >
Date:  Sat, Oct 30, 2010 9:01 am
To:  anjie3000@6footbombshell.com

 

 
Hello 6footbombshell,
 
I follow you on a few sites.  I have a bf I’ve been with for 2 years and I luv him.  I am 18 and I want to marry him.  He’s 25 and my mom and dad hate him.  He hits me all the time and I’m not sure what I should do.  He ahas 2 other girls prego at the same time and has 3 kids.  The last fight  I fell down the stairs and lost my front tooth.  most of the time he’s super sweet…wut should I do?
Randi 

Wow.  Where do I even begin?  Randi, love doesn’t hurt nor take out front teeth.  You should not tolerate violence on ANY level.  Your parents hate him for a good reason.  But I bet they hated him before the first hit because of his age.  If you have been with him for 2 years that means you were seeing him when you were 16 and he was 23.  That’s strike one and a red flag.  I’m curious to what your state’s legal age of consent is. There’s so many things wrong with this situation.. even if he has never hit you once he has 3 children at 25 years-old and he has cheated on you and got 2 other ladies pregnant.  Even if he never cheated on you, he beats you.  So there’s nothing “super sweet” about this man.  Also, have you been tested for any diseases?  If he has 2 chicks pregnant at the same time I can only imagine how many other women he’s been with at the same time.  I think the answer is very simple:  GO GET TESTED AND LEAVE HIM ALONE.  But that will only happen once you realize your self-worth.  Once you realize that you’re worth more than broken teeth and a black eye, you won’t even consider a man that’s less than a man.  And anyways YOU’RE TOO DAMN YOUNG to be thinking about marriage.  Go and enjoy life.  Go to the prom if you haven’t already.  Date.  Go to college and have fun.  At 18 me and my girls were in college and partying state-to-state.  None of us thinking about marrying some older man let alone getting beat up by one.  Go enjoy your life…WITHOUT him.

I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger…

Today on the Michael Baisden show a caller made the statement that women who date for money are prostitutes.   When Mr. Baisden posted this caller’s statement on Facebook, naturally a storm brewed.  The responses were surprisingly mixed.  I knew most, if not all the men would agree to the statement but there were a few ladies who also agreed.  The rest of the ladies flat-out disagreed.  This caller’s statement and the replies from Mr. Baisden’s post made one thing very clear: there’s a double standard when women “date for money”.

Since the dawn of time women have been told that the man is the provider, the bread-winner.  That he’s supposed to “take care of us” and he “brings home the bacon”.  Mothers AND fathers have been telling their baby girls “you better not bring no broke fool home”.  How many times have we heard of parents, family members and friends make disparaging remarks when a loved one  introduced their mechanic boyfriends?  We see it time after time in every book or movie or household of people we know of how proud parents are when Suzie brings home a doctor or lawyer with their own flourishing practice but lack luster emotion when Suzie brings home a man just making 35k a year.  In almost every outlet and every aspect of our lives society is telling women to date for money.  Especially in every media outlet.  Most movies are about some chick getting swept away by a rich Prince Charming.  On TV most if not all of the women of any of the Real Housewives reality series, married  a rich or wealthy man.  And in music, that message telling women to go with the rich guy is even more apparent.  I can name a list of R&B and/or Hip Hop songs that reference the male artist spending exuberant amounts of money on women.. women they just met in a club at that.

I’m going to spend a stack on her; Throw it in the bag for her; Drop a couple grand on her; Took her on expensive trips and bought her expensive gifts; Gucci this, Louis that, Christian Louboutin this, Guisseppie that; I love this stripper so much I’m going to take her out of this club and make her mine by spending all these stacks on her.

I can keep going and going and going.

Men, too, are the culprits in this as well.  I’ve seen men wearing their cash on them like a badge.  I’ve seen men flash their money around women.  I’ve seen men who have done some of the things I mentioned above that’s in almost all of the songs being played on any urban radio station.  I had a man who cussed me out after I refused to accept a gift that I thought was inappropriate because it was way to expensive.  I knew him less than 2 weeks and had only went out to dinner with him and on the 2nd date he presents a diamond bracelet.   Alot of men endorse this behavior.  Some of it I understand because society is telling them that they’re SUPPOSED to give their women whatever she wants.  But does that make him a John?

Does wanting a man who is financially stable mean “you’re dating for money”?   Is it wrong for a woman who makes 200k to ask for a man who matches that?  Or is it only wrong when the woman makes only 40k to want a man to make six figures?  Is it wrong for a woman to want her man or husband to be able to provide a financially secure household, to be able to give her gifts and take her on trips?

What surprised me were the responses on Michael Baisden’s page from women who flat-out said “if you want to deal with me then you gotta pay.”   And I think that’s where the double standard comes in.  Society and this “unwritten rule” can say the man is supposed to take care of us and be the financial provider but the woman can’t say it.  It sounds bad when a woman says it.  Or is it all about semantics?  Is the wording wrong?  I do think of shallowness when I hear a woman say “I only date men with money.”  There will never be a day when women go around saying “I only date men with no jobs and no money” ?   That will never happen.

Disclaimer:  I do not date for money just so we’re clear lol

“If you dress like a hoe you get treated like one” Do we still believe this?

“I think you put women reporters in the locker room in position to see guys walking around naked, and you sit in the locker room with 53 guys, and all of a sudden you see a nice woman in the locker room. I think men are going to tend to turn and look and want to say something to that woman…You know, somebody got to spark her interest, or she’s going to want somebody.”

That’s a statement Washington Redskins Clinton Portis made on a radio station in the Washington area when asked about this Ines Sainz and NY Jets sexual harassment issue that’s happening now.  I’m not sure where he was going with it.  Is he saying that women aren’t professional enough to be around a group of men and not “want” any of them?  Therefore, what happened is ok?   

As we all know, Ms. Sainz is alleging sexual harassment from members of the NY Jets.  She actually isn’t the one that made the complaint.  Another reporter that was in the room is the one that lodged the complaint.  But that’s neither here nor there.  I want to discuss the belief that when women dress a certain way then they should expect to be treated a certain way.  The very old “if she acts/dresses like a hoe she should expect to get treated like one”.   I’m not saying Ms. Sainz looks like a hoe but the opinion from many people across the web stink of that very old belief about how one dresses.

This discussion is nothing new.  I can’t even count with my fingers and piggies how many times I’ve had this talk with male and female friends.  The girl that’s in the club dressed like a “hoe” is subject to the cat calls, the disrespectful comments and even being fondled. I’ve seen asses smacked and hands up mini-dresses of the brave girl who walks by a crew of liquored up men.  My position still remains the same:  a woman should be able to dress however she wants without being assaulted in the club or anywhere.  But with this Ines Sainz situation, I have to be honest and say that I almost started to ask myself when I saw some of her pictures “why does she have that on?”After reading reports and listening to Ms. Sainz on the Today show, I got this feeling that she does enjoy her job and she takes it seriously.  She used words like “professional” and “professionalism” over and over again.  That’s when I began to question my position on this subject.  As I look at her on the Today show I see two different things.  On the show she DOES look professional.  So why the change?  Why on the field is she in outfits, cute outfits I might add, that are so tight it looks like she can’t breathe but on the Today show she looks like she’s going to an office job?  Her jeans are so tight that it leaves the separation marks of her body fat (I’m not saying she’s fat but her natural body fat) on the back of her legs.  That’s a clear indicator, for me anyways when I try on jeans, that they’re to tight.  Do we see men reporters that are in great shape with tank tops, those dreadful spandex shirts and beach shorts on?  Do we see them in the same outfits that the man with the best body in the club has on that all of us ladies are drooling over?  No.  Of course there are jobs that you do not need to be suited and booted up for but is Ines really being professional with midriff shirts, low-rise tight jeans and cleavage for days showing?  She is at work.  Can we take her claims of professionalism seriously if she looks like she’s about to take part in her weekly “Girls Night Out” on the town?  Honestly, I can’t.   If it’s all about “taking the sport and the NFL organization seriously” or “taking the job seriously” or “being professional” (these are her words and words of her supporters) then one should be dressing the part.  Why does she look like she’s going on an interview on the Today show then on the other hand look like she’s going clubbing at work?   But that doesn’t mean she should be subjected to harassment. 

Sex in the workplace will always be a problem.  Once we’re no longer over sexualized in every aspect of the media then maybe it might change.  Ines choice of clothes is a part of sex.  She’s beautiful and has a nice body so feels the need to dress the part.  Now don’t sit here and shake your head and act like you don’t do the same.  We all do at some point.   But the key is to still be sexy as hell and appropriate at the same time.  That’s a lost art form most chicks haven’t learned.