“If you dress like a hoe you get treated like one” Do we still believe this?

“I think you put women reporters in the locker room in position to see guys walking around naked, and you sit in the locker room with 53 guys, and all of a sudden you see a nice woman in the locker room. I think men are going to tend to turn and look and want to say something to that woman…You know, somebody got to spark her interest, or she’s going to want somebody.”

That’s a statement Washington Redskins Clinton Portis made on a radio station in the Washington area when asked about this Ines Sainz and NY Jets sexual harassment issue that’s happening now.  I’m not sure where he was going with it.  Is he saying that women aren’t professional enough to be around a group of men and not “want” any of them?  Therefore, what happened is ok?   

As we all know, Ms. Sainz is alleging sexual harassment from members of the NY Jets.  She actually isn’t the one that made the complaint.  Another reporter that was in the room is the one that lodged the complaint.  But that’s neither here nor there.  I want to discuss the belief that when women dress a certain way then they should expect to be treated a certain way.  The very old “if she acts/dresses like a hoe she should expect to get treated like one”.   I’m not saying Ms. Sainz looks like a hoe but the opinion from many people across the web stink of that very old belief about how one dresses.

This discussion is nothing new.  I can’t even count with my fingers and piggies how many times I’ve had this talk with male and female friends.  The girl that’s in the club dressed like a “hoe” is subject to the cat calls, the disrespectful comments and even being fondled. I’ve seen asses smacked and hands up mini-dresses of the brave girl who walks by a crew of liquored up men.  My position still remains the same:  a woman should be able to dress however she wants without being assaulted in the club or anywhere.  But with this Ines Sainz situation, I have to be honest and say that I almost started to ask myself when I saw some of her pictures “why does she have that on?”After reading reports and listening to Ms. Sainz on the Today show, I got this feeling that she does enjoy her job and she takes it seriously.  She used words like “professional” and “professionalism” over and over again.  That’s when I began to question my position on this subject.  As I look at her on the Today show I see two different things.  On the show she DOES look professional.  So why the change?  Why on the field is she in outfits, cute outfits I might add, that are so tight it looks like she can’t breathe but on the Today show she looks like she’s going to an office job?  Her jeans are so tight that it leaves the separation marks of her body fat (I’m not saying she’s fat but her natural body fat) on the back of her legs.  That’s a clear indicator, for me anyways when I try on jeans, that they’re to tight.  Do we see men reporters that are in great shape with tank tops, those dreadful spandex shirts and beach shorts on?  Do we see them in the same outfits that the man with the best body in the club has on that all of us ladies are drooling over?  No.  Of course there are jobs that you do not need to be suited and booted up for but is Ines really being professional with midriff shirts, low-rise tight jeans and cleavage for days showing?  She is at work.  Can we take her claims of professionalism seriously if she looks like she’s about to take part in her weekly “Girls Night Out” on the town?  Honestly, I can’t.   If it’s all about “taking the sport and the NFL organization seriously” or “taking the job seriously” or “being professional” (these are her words and words of her supporters) then one should be dressing the part.  Why does she look like she’s going on an interview on the Today show then on the other hand look like she’s going clubbing at work?   But that doesn’t mean she should be subjected to harassment. 

Sex in the workplace will always be a problem.  Once we’re no longer over sexualized in every aspect of the media then maybe it might change.  Ines choice of clothes is a part of sex.  She’s beautiful and has a nice body so feels the need to dress the part.  Now don’t sit here and shake your head and act like you don’t do the same.  We all do at some point.   But the key is to still be sexy as hell and appropriate at the same time.  That’s a lost art form most chicks haven’t learned.

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2 comments on ““If you dress like a hoe you get treated like one” Do we still believe this?

  1. I am in total agreement that a woman should be able to wear whatever she chooses and NOT be harrassed and molested on the streets…however we MUST have some sense of decorum! I am not a prude by all means but this woman’s attire is TRASHY..I wouldn’t even wear it for Girls’ Night Out, you know what I mean? The human mind has a vivid imagination AS IS but why should the public be subjected to seeing your cracks, camel-toes, nipples, etc? What are you (the wearer) REALLY saying?!

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