It always baffled me why women get so caught up on Valentine’s Day. It’s not more than a huge marketing ploy that most of you fell for. Even you men fell for it. You guys are stressing about what you’re going to do for her on that day because she’s obsessing about what you’re going to do for her on that day.
Why so much emphasis on a day that’s really rooted in evil (please go and research the TRUE background of Valentine’s Day)? What’s even worse is that there are women measuring their “worth” on this day. Offices around the country on February 14th will have 3 sets of moods on that day: 1) the women who think she’s really loved because her man sent her flowers; 2) the women who is questioning her love because she didn’t get flowers and 3) the women who’s not in a relationship begins to feel EXTRA lonely and not worthy because of all the women around her getting their deliveries. I’ve been in offices where it felt like I was at a funeral because women “mourning” their relationship or the lack of one due to Valentine’s Day. I’ve heard women make comments in elevators “this is going to be a dreadful day” or “I hate coming to work on this day”. Give me a break!
You should not HAVE to measure your value or the value of your relationship behind a specific day on the calendar that society has TOLD you to follow. February 14th should come and go like any other day because you’re made to feel special and “valuable” on June 6th, September 1st, February 13th and the other 360 days. Your dude should already be doing the flowers, the candy, the courting, the affection. Because I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day, not getting flowers to the office was never a traumatic experience. I’ve never felt any less important or valuable on that day. The men I’ve dated gave me flowers on a Tuesday or a Sunday or August 19th “just because”. The days I’m made to feel extra special, the days he tells me he loves me, the romance, the affection, the days he watches me fall asleep, happen throughout the course of the relationship…not just on a specific day.